By: Anuradha
If you have ever happened to face a break-up, you will know how hard it is. Especially, the time after that will be terrible and you will always wish for things to be okay and you will wish him/her to come back to you. If that one is taken by someone else, you will at least try to be friend with your ex just because the feeling of being separate seem impossible and unbearable.
But according to psychologists, staying friends with an ex is the worst idea ever. Nina Atwood, a therapist and the author of Temptations of the Single Girl, being with an ex is not wrong, but it is challenging to you both emotionally and physically. She says,
“Wanting to be friends keeps you from feeling the full depth of the loss, softening the blow of the breakup. You may feel that this person knows you better than anyone else. Even if you are not sexually attracted, you may still want the emotional intimacy that you shared”.
So, you will always long for the things to be like early days and even when you know that you will not take him/her back, you will wait for hugs, soft kisses and kind words from that one. So, it will not be easy for you to take over the past relationships and that’s why it is important to be away from your ex.
When you are attached with that one even from the slightest bond, you will end up being hurt over and over again and according to the psychologist Juliana Breines, staying friends with an ex often result in more hurt feelings, jealousy and anxiety.
Lindsay Kriger who is a relationship expert also says that “It’s almost impossible to pull off staying friends”. He believes it is best to delete their number, block them on Facebook and move on.