Parents Still Lose Sleep Over Worrying About Grown Children!

By: Anuradha 

Are you someone who is in your late teens or twenties and still bother about parents consent before going out in a night or hanging with a friend? Well, if this is the situation with you, you would probably think that your parents are over-concerning about you. Their excessive attention might be a nuisance for you on certain occasions but according to a recent research, if your parents are like this, then you are one of the luckiest kids ever!

The study’s lead author Amber J. Seidel, Ph.D., of Penn State York in Pennsylvania, is a family gerontologist and she says that she got involved in this study as she believes in family relationships.

Speaking to BBC she said, “I feel that many share this value, yet I think much of the socialization in our culture focuses on the family when children are younger. I seek to study topics that help us understand how family continues to be a central part of our lives throughout adulthood, and I encourage considering family-level influences in all situations”.

The research team examined 186 heterosexual married couples who were in their late 50’s and had average 2-3 adult children for the experiment.

These parents were asked to rate the different types of support they offer their adult children on a scale of 1 to 8, with 1 being daily and 8 being no more than once a year. Types of support ranged from practical help including financial assistance to emotional support including advice and discussing daily events.

The parents also rated how stressful they find it to help their adult children and how much they worry about these kids from a scale of 1-5, with 1 being ‘not at all’ and 5 being ‘a great deal’.

Parents were also questioned about the amount of sleep they got each night. The wives reported sleeping 6.66 hours per night while the husbands slept about 6.69 hours.

The results showed that for husbands, the support that they provided their grown children was associated with poorer sleep; conversely, the husbands slept more when their wives reported providing support for the kids. However, no such impact was noticed in women’s sleeping.

Women’s sleeping was impaired by experiencing higher stress with their children. The stress level was not affected by how much the husbands slept.

It was revealed that the giving of support itself affected the men while stress over the support was what affected the women. Seidel says that the results can be an effect of how involved many parents are with their grown children’s lives.

“Current research on young adults suggests that parents and children are maintaining high levels of involvement. Although parents and adult children have always maintained some level of involvement, we do see an increase in what is often termed ‘helicopter parenting’ and ‘landing pad’ children”.

Speaking further Seidel added that emergence of technology such as cell phone and social media gives parents a deeper insight into what is going on in their children lives which can further increase their concern for children.

Parents are advised to deal with stress by developing healthy coping strategies like exercise or therapy.

“it is important to remember that having stress present in our lives is not the problem. It’s the inability to cope in healthy ways with the tress that is problematic and may lead to immune suppression”.

She also suggests for parents to consider their level of involvement in their kid’s lives and how their kids receive it.

So, if your parents involved in your life just too much, that is perfectly natural and it only shows that they really love you a lot!