How many times did you not do something you wanted to just because you were worried about what other people would think? How many times did you let their opinions of you distract you from living life to the fullest?
What other people think does not matter. And here are 7 solid reasons what it is so.
#1. This isn’t their life, it’s yours
It is all yours. They do not have a say in what you choose to do. Remind them that they should mind their own business if you have to, and just start focusing on yours.
#2. Only small-minded people are concerned with other people’s business
When people do not have anything important on their minds, they go around snooping. Those are the people who are bothered enough to give you their opinion on how you live your life. In their eyes, your life is much more interesting than their own.
#3. What is good for someone else may be bad for you
People’s opinions are based on what they do. And also, you need to keep in mind that what is good for somebody else could be bad for you. This works the other way around as well. What is trash for someone else could be a treasure for you. And that is why you have to neglect what others think and choose what is best for you.
#4. Their opinions don’t describe you, they describe them
What they perceive you to be is a mirror image of themselves. It is nothing more than a reflection of their own lives. If they have pure hearts and intentions, they will also see you in such a light. If not, it will be a dark image for them.
#5. You must live with integrity
When you live by your own rules, you are living a truly authentic life. When you live with what other people think about you, you live a lie. You can live with integrity only when you live in sync with what you feel is right with no regard to what others think. In fact, when you live by the standards of others you aren’t living life as it is meant to be lived.
#6. People see what they want to see
There is nothing you can do about those who hate you and those who love you. And also, there will always be people who have a problem with you, no matter how good a person you are, or with how much kindness you treat others. People see what they want to see and there is nothing you can do about it.
#7. People don’t care as much as you think they do
You may always be concerned about what they think about you but the chances are they do not even care. We all have difficult lives and we have no time to be bothered about stuff like this.
Hence, your best option is to take the energy you put into worrying about their approval and channel that energy into considering what you yourself really approve of.