By. Anuradha
We are living in a society where almost everyone tries to judge us. The way we dress, the way we talk and the way we behave would surely be criticized by thousands of eyes and that is why it is impossible to please everyone. Even if you change yourself to satisfy one person’s wishes that would not be okay with someone else and here are 7 reasons why other people’s opinions of you don’t matter.
#1. This isn’t their life, it’s yours.
It is your life after all and you are the one who knows what makes you happy and what doesn’t. If you try to live in a way that others recommend, you would never feel like living and at the end of the day, you would go to bed with regrets. Your life is really short and it is not worth enough to spend it on pleasing everyone. Just do what you want and what makes you happy.
#2. Only small-minded people are concerned with other people’s business.
People tend to gossip and spread false news about others when they have nothing better to do in their lives. They believe it would gain attention to themselves by spreading these false remarks about others, but you need not change yourself just because of what these people say and do. They are jealous of what you have and you need not lower your status to please them.
#3. What is good for someone else may be bad for you.
We all are different from each other and therefore, what is good for one person might not be good for you. All our lives depend on our surroundings, our experiences and our attitude towards our life and therefore, you need not do everything that someone else recommends you. They don’t think you can stand on your feet and you are the one who knows what is best for you.
#4. Their opinion doesn’t describe you, they describe them.
You need not bother about other people’s opinions about you because they might not know the real you and people tend to say good things about others when they have a good and pure heart. But if they are evil in the heart then they will never say anything good about others no matter how great that person is. So, your conduct does not affect their judgments at all.
#5. You must live with integrity.
You can have an authentic life only by living according to your principles. When you try to live according to a way that someone else described for you, you will never live truly or happily. True integrity is when you live according to the things that make sense to you. It is the sense or feeling just and fine and this is very much needed when you truly want to live your life.
#6. People see what they want to see.
Some people will love you whereas some others would hate you. That does not depend on you but rather on their selves. No matter how great you are, some people will always find a fault in you and no matter how bad you are, some others will always see something good in you.
#7. People don’t care as much as you think they do.
Sometimes, despite all your worries and concerns, people might not even think about you at all. You will form your judgments if you have a curious and a doubtful mind but that does not have anything to do with others. So, stop wasting your energy and thoughts to take someone else’s approval for the things you do. Live the life you want and people will think whatever they want!