10 Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Make Cool Again

By: Anuradha

1. Coming to the door to pick someone up.

Now it all begins with “I’m here, where are you?” but those days picking up the dating partner from mostly her doorstep was in use and it was much more romantic. The girl stays indoors, heart giving loud lup-dubs till the door bells rings and the boy coming out of the car and taking her out saying ‘hello’ to her parents was really cool.

2. Trying to dress really nice for a date.

I don’t mean wearing petticoats and suits but wearing something nice for the occasion gives you a sense that you are going to face something important. More than anything, appearance matters a lot and your tiny efforts in curling your hair or having a new perfume will show your partner how special the occasion is for you.

3. Bringing flowers or some other token of affection to the first date.

Now there are some exceptional lucky ones who get gifts every time they meet, but for first date receiving flowers or something will make your partner feel really special. It’s a mark that we really do care and appreciate that they want to spend time with us.

4. Going dancing that’s not grinding on a grimy cub floor.

This doesn’t mean that you are going to have sex on dance floor. It only means dancing for the fun of dancing. It will help you to shake off your nerves and be more familiar with your partner. People have almost forgotten what slow dance really mean now. This is a tip for you. When you are alone with him/her in your apartment or anywhere outdoors, turn on the radio for a slow tone and have dance with him/he. I can assure you that it would be one of the best nights you ever had.

5. Directly asking out someone and not calling it “hanging out”

You need not to come up with things like “just talking” and “just hanging out” because it devalue the purpose of your date. If you are on a date why do you need to be afraid to accept that? You have thought to go on a date because you like this person and there is nothing like if you date him/her then it should end up in a marriage.

6. Being clear about when you are “going steady”

That awkward moment “so..are we… you know… what are we?” talk. This is so classical. We should go back to asking one another if the other person would like to “go steady” or something.

7. Romantic gestures like writing poems.

You might not be a poetry person but writing something that you feel and mail it out or simply sending a text at the most unexpected moment is not cynical. It only shows that you think about that other one and it will make your relationship more sweet and lovely.

8. Turning electronic off and just being with one another.

It would be totally bizarre if one of you began to check your phone all the time in the middle of a dinner leaving the other one to stare at foods. You are on a date man! Leave the phone aside and instead have a live conversation with your partner. Get to know what his/her interests are and who they really are.

9. The general concept of asking permission for things.

In old times people were so polite so that they always asked “when can I see you” “when can I call you” and so. Though you may feel asking permission will reduce the intimacy between you, it of course give a sense that you concern about other one’s feelings. Specially, when it comes to sexuality perhaps you kissing him/her or touching their body can make the other one feel uncomfortable. So, in that case it is always good to ask for permissions particularly in date period.

10. Not assuming sex is to be had at any point in time.

A date does not need to be end up in sex. I don’t say you have to have those ancient ideal about sex being a taboo. But it is not quite manly to have sex on your first date itself if one of you is not into that. It always depends on the person you are with and your feeling for the other one.